Is this how we think now?

04:56 Khadija Muzaffar 1 Comments

So I read an article on Thought Catalog a while back, and it struck me as very accurate. The article, which you can find here, is basically about how people date nowadays, but one part in particular caught my attention...

Says Jamie Varon, the author:
"There are always other tantalizing options. Open up Instagram and see the lives of others, the life we could have. See the places we’re not traveling to. See the lives we’re not living. See the people we’re not dating. We bombard ourselves with stimuli, input, input, input, and we wonder why we’re miserable. We wonder why we’re dissatisfied. We wonder why nothing lasts and everything feels a little hopeless. Because, we have no idea how to see our lives for what they are, instead of what they aren’t."
Isn't that so true? I feel like we spend so much time obsessing over other peoples' lives (and this is coming from a person who checks the internet for updates on Miranda Kerr and Acacia Brinley every. Single. Day) that we end up feeling dissatisfied with our own! We constantly think about how to make our lives seem/be as interesting, vibrant and happening as the ones on instagram. We forget that what we see is only just one part of it, its only the highlights. Nobody has a perfect life, no matter what it seems like online.

Case in point: I noticed that after watching a makeup tutorial on youtube, I often end up wanting the stuff they use. The next day they use something else, and now suddenly THIS is the thing I want. Whats happening is basically we're being tricked by all this stimuli, into thinking that our lives are missing the (possibly more material) things that we see online. That without them, we wont be as interesting or something. We have this constant need to impress strangers, to show them that our lives are interesting too, and we have pretty shiny stuff too. 

This was an eye-opener for me. The more input you give yourself, the more incomplete and unhappy you'll feel. Think about your life. Think about the less fortunate. You'll realize how lucky you are, even without all that Chanel in your life. Even if you (I) don't have the Anastasia Contour Kit T_T Haha but no seriously, I was pining over that for a long time, till I got my act together and made another product work (DO YOU WANT TO KNOW A CHEAP ALTERNATIVE FOR A LOVELY CREAM CONTOUR???) and now I'm totally fine :p So think about this next time you catch yourself sighing over somebody's Instagram feed. Your life is as beautiful, if not more, as anybody else's, just as it is. It's important to remember that. 
What do you think? Is Social Media going to be the ruin of us? Let me know the answer to this somewhat ominous and very alarming question and also tell me about the contour hack ok thanks :)

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